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Katie's avatar

My problem is I will put all my time and effort into working. Then it comes around to the weekend and I have no hobby or nothing that fulfills me or my energy. Then I feel the big empty and start ruminating on how I hate myself because I don’t have any hobbies and I just feel the big empty every weekend.

Going to the gym helped with this. It gives me a hobby out of the house. Seeing the changes in my strength helps with my confidence. However whenever I feel depressed I will stop going to the gym. Then I’ll repeat the pattern 😭

I’m currently trying to psych myself up to go to the gym again. I haven’t been in so long I always dread going back. I know once I’m there it helps, it’s just hard getting there.

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Stefanie Mills-Wise's avatar

I sooooooo relate to this, Mollie!!! Filling my bookshelves (and brain) are multiple books on yoga for healing trauma, "The Body Keeps the Score", "The Mindful Way Through Depression", MANY books on metta meditation and mindful self-compassion practices, books on Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, several books by Peter Levine, books on 5Rhythms dance, and on and on... I could write a book about these books, about these amazingly effective treatment modalities, and yet, I fail to practice them consistently. I did, for a time, and doing so saved my life. Then I met my partner, (now ex-partner), and started drinking heavily, and let all my self-care practices go. For 6.5 years now, I have thought about and talked about these things, yet not practiced them...but continued to stay in my head entirely, as my body began to cry out to me, with aches and pains and stiffness...even clots in my lungs, which I have no risk factors for, according to mainstream medicine, but which some studies have shown are more common in women with trauma in their history. Anyway, I SO feel you on this. And I look forward to changing, along with you!

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