i needed this so badly rn. ive been in a horrible horrible relationship the past five years filled with abuse and abandonment, yet i still had them on this pedestal. im finally seeing someone who is healthy for me, but i had my first bpd outbreak (?) in front of them. they're still supporting me, caring for me, but when they said i needed to focus on getting better first and foremost it hurt me... even though it makes so much sense and i know i need to prioritise it too? i will read the book recs, i will keep seeking therapy, i will get better and finally experience love, instead of obsession. thank you
This is all so heartbreakingly *real*. It's wild how easy it is to throw ourselves into everything BUT prioritizing healing (and becoming conscious of) our own wounds. Bravo to you for even recognizing this. And it sounds like this person truly loves and cares about you. I hope the book recommendations are helpful for you - they've all changed my life profoundly. Wishing you all the best as you navigate these next steps in your journey, Mai. You've got this. One step at a time. You're doing amazing work. ❤️
Absolutely dumbfounded to see this in my inbox, today. It felt as if this message was sent to me from The Universe lovingly through your writing, making me feel seen and held in the truth I've known in my heart, but for too long, felt too scared and ashamed to face directly. It's heartbreaking to realize how hurtful these patterns are to ourselves and the people we love, and I'm grateful each and every one of us has the power to forgive ourselves, tend to our wounds, and put in the effort to try and live a more peaceful, authentic, and loving life.
Thank you so much for all your beautiful writing, it truly touches the hearts of many people, in many ways you'll never know!
Thank you so much. Your comment truly warmed my heart, reminding me why I share even my darkest moments here. So many of us are navigating these very same emotions—it’s a deeply universal journey. Be kind to yourself; the work you’re doing is profound and heavy. I’m sending you the biggest virtual hug I can muster. 🫶
Every single thing said, I kept saying in my head, “yes, yes, yes, yes.” I recognized all these behaviors through the heartache I’ve experienced the last 2.5 years, and I’m accepting how flawed it all was, and I am. It’s humbling, beautiful and so comforting to see you spell it all out right before me. I tell myself, “I poured my heart out, if nothing else, I have room for more.” Thank you for the reminder <3
Such incredibly profound and beautiful self reflection here, my friend. As you can imagine (because you read the piece) I relate to what you've shared DEEPLY. Waking up to how we can change these patterns is *everything*, and something very few people end up doing. The fact that you're aware of this now means you're already on course to changing your entire life. I commend you on this. Don't underestimate how huge a step this is. I will also be stealing that quote/mantra about having 'room for more.' I need that one right now. Sending huge (virtual) hugs. Thank you for being here and for sharing this.
You have no right to be this on time and this wise, lady! 💖 jokes aside, insights like these hit me on the head so so hard these days - sometimes too hard but i guess it has to be this way. Past 6 months i've been trying to navigate my life without THAT special person that i had huge PGE about... and it's fking tough, especially after 6 years that were filled with love and happiness and adventures and... but, truth be told, emotionally i was a little child, not the woman i had to be for this to work out even longer than it did. Yesterday i had a bath listening to the mother hunger episode, and again, so so relatable... as always, thank you for excellent resources that really help me and others through this shit show ❤️🩹 all the best to you in this exciting life chapter! 🌸💖
i needed this so badly rn. ive been in a horrible horrible relationship the past five years filled with abuse and abandonment, yet i still had them on this pedestal. im finally seeing someone who is healthy for me, but i had my first bpd outbreak (?) in front of them. they're still supporting me, caring for me, but when they said i needed to focus on getting better first and foremost it hurt me... even though it makes so much sense and i know i need to prioritise it too? i will read the book recs, i will keep seeking therapy, i will get better and finally experience love, instead of obsession. thank you
This is all so heartbreakingly *real*. It's wild how easy it is to throw ourselves into everything BUT prioritizing healing (and becoming conscious of) our own wounds. Bravo to you for even recognizing this. And it sounds like this person truly loves and cares about you. I hope the book recommendations are helpful for you - they've all changed my life profoundly. Wishing you all the best as you navigate these next steps in your journey, Mai. You've got this. One step at a time. You're doing amazing work. ❤️
thank u so much 💞
Absolutely dumbfounded to see this in my inbox, today. It felt as if this message was sent to me from The Universe lovingly through your writing, making me feel seen and held in the truth I've known in my heart, but for too long, felt too scared and ashamed to face directly. It's heartbreaking to realize how hurtful these patterns are to ourselves and the people we love, and I'm grateful each and every one of us has the power to forgive ourselves, tend to our wounds, and put in the effort to try and live a more peaceful, authentic, and loving life.
Thank you so much for all your beautiful writing, it truly touches the hearts of many people, in many ways you'll never know!
Thank you so much. Your comment truly warmed my heart, reminding me why I share even my darkest moments here. So many of us are navigating these very same emotions—it’s a deeply universal journey. Be kind to yourself; the work you’re doing is profound and heavy. I’m sending you the biggest virtual hug I can muster. 🫶
Every single thing said, I kept saying in my head, “yes, yes, yes, yes.” I recognized all these behaviors through the heartache I’ve experienced the last 2.5 years, and I’m accepting how flawed it all was, and I am. It’s humbling, beautiful and so comforting to see you spell it all out right before me. I tell myself, “I poured my heart out, if nothing else, I have room for more.” Thank you for the reminder <3
Such incredibly profound and beautiful self reflection here, my friend. As you can imagine (because you read the piece) I relate to what you've shared DEEPLY. Waking up to how we can change these patterns is *everything*, and something very few people end up doing. The fact that you're aware of this now means you're already on course to changing your entire life. I commend you on this. Don't underestimate how huge a step this is. I will also be stealing that quote/mantra about having 'room for more.' I need that one right now. Sending huge (virtual) hugs. Thank you for being here and for sharing this.
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Oi. Stop seeing me! Jk. Really excellent piece.
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Damn, I love this!!!!
You have no right to be this on time and this wise, lady! 💖 jokes aside, insights like these hit me on the head so so hard these days - sometimes too hard but i guess it has to be this way. Past 6 months i've been trying to navigate my life without THAT special person that i had huge PGE about... and it's fking tough, especially after 6 years that were filled with love and happiness and adventures and... but, truth be told, emotionally i was a little child, not the woman i had to be for this to work out even longer than it did. Yesterday i had a bath listening to the mother hunger episode, and again, so so relatable... as always, thank you for excellent resources that really help me and others through this shit show ❤️🩹 all the best to you in this exciting life chapter! 🌸💖